☆☆☆☆☆
No matter what life throws at you, it's always nice to know you can escape into the dark. Especially when they're great, even when they're bad ... they're the movies, after all.
Wednesday, November 19, 2025
"Bugonia"
"Die My Love"
☆☆☆½
Some people will argue (its director, Lynne Ramsay, says wrongly) that Die My Love is about post-partum depression. I agree with Ramsay, but that begs the question: what is it about? And few people who see Die My Love are likely to agree on an answer, if post-partum depression really is off the table.
First and foremost, I'd argue that it's about a very specific mood, the dangerous one that comes from something much deeper than melancholia and maybe even transcends depression. It's about despair and hopelessness, and the unexpected ways that life, in all its weird beauty and expressiveness, can slice through that heaviness but never relieve it.
It's also, on a more complex level, about moviemaking itself, and the way images and sounds, dialogue and performance can all co-exist and never quite tell a cohesive story yet also never fail to tell a story, anyway. In that regard, it's a little like watching an anguished, existential, homebound 2001: A Space Odyssey. It's in love with moviemaking, the way Ingmar Bergman was, and like his films (especially Persona and Cries and Whispers) it's possible it will leave you scratching your head, but still feeling ... something. But what? Hard to tell.
Die My Love, as the title suggests, is probably not going to leave you buoyant, and yet it's filled with such indescribably good things that if you like movies it will be hard not to feel at least a little energized. To begin with, there are the central performances — and not just Jennifer Lawrence as Grace, a woman whose mind is coming undone, and whose breakdown may or may not be related to her new motherhood. Her husband Jackson is played by Robert Pattinson, who is powerful as a man who does not understand the person he married, or, worse, the person that marriage has made him become.
Also delivering interesting, worthy performances here are Lakeith Stanfield as a man whose sexuality is so alluring it seems unreal (and may be); Sissy Spacek as Grace's mother-in-law, who wants to be supportive but understands fractured reality more than she lets on; and, briefly but memorably, Nick Nolte as Jackson's father, who is both sick and haunted by his own demons.
For much of its running time, Die My Love is a series of images rather than a coherent story. If the book was written as fractured internal monologue, the film takes on that busy, anguished mind through images that are sometimes hard, occasionally brutal, to parse. When the story does kick in, it's minimal, which is only sometimes a problem because the film's images are so daring and brave, brought to life by a cast that is willing to do remarkable things to make us believe in these people.
Lawrence stands at the center, raw and ... what? Frightened? Exasperated? Exhausted? Hopeless? Yes, all of those things, but Die My Love is wise not to try to name them. The novel on which it's based was told in first-person form and made Grace its focus; in the film, the story is no doubt hers, but the way her behavior affects others and the way the others affect her behavior become important factors. Grace does some terrible things in Die My Love. (Fair warning for those who are sensitive: some of them involve animals.) Most of the things she does are incomprehensible.
But what Ramsay seems to want to convey, and does with unnerving flair, is that life is often incomprehensible. The things people do often make no sense. Her goal here seems less to be one of explanation than lyrical, sometimes beautiful, often empathetic observation, but always from a distance, always with remove — a remove that may make the film feel cold and inaccessible, though in fairness that's also the way Grace feels most of the time.
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Note: Days after watching Die My Love, I added a half-star to my rating. The film remains challenging and even problematic, but few movies have stuck with me as persistently or convincingly. It's a tough film to shake, and that deserves a higher rating.
Viewed November 19, 2025 — AMC Topanga
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Saturday, November 15, 2025
"Nuremberg"
☆☆☆
Wednesday, November 5, 2025
"Roofman"
☆☆☆☆
Monday, November 3, 2025
"Good Fortune"
☆☆☆½
Tuesday, October 28, 2025
"After the Hunt"
☆☆
Wednesday, October 22, 2025
"Frankenstein"
☆☆☆☆
Friday, October 17, 2025
"Good Boy"
☆☆☆½
Saturday, October 11, 2025
"One Battle After Another"
☆☆☆☆☆
Sunday, September 7, 2025
"Lurker"
☆☆☆½
Sunday, August 10, 2025
"Weapons"
☆☆☆½
"Sketch"
☆☆☆
Friday, August 8, 2025
"East of Wall"
☆☆½
Monday, July 21, 2025
"Superman"
☆☆½
Tuesday, July 8, 2025
"Sorry, Baby"
☆☆☆☆
This small, profoundly insightful movie is written and directed by Eva Victor, the woman who plays Agnes. She is a fascinating person to watch. As the movie jumps around in time — a method of storytelling that is as effective as it is sometimes distracting — it is clear that Agnes has never had the same ease in life that comes so naturally to others. She is always just a little nervous, always just a little tentative. She looks like she might break easily.
It turns out Agnes does not break easily at all. What she does is bend — uncomfortably, perhaps unnaturally, and in ways she never expected.
Sorry, Baby is about the way Agnes experiences, survives and then recovers from a sexual assault, but it isn't a Movie of the Week or Afterschool Special sort of story, where lots of people misunderstand what happened or don't believe her or think she must have brought it on herself. It's about the way she comes to terms with what happened, and the way everyone around her, like her close friend Lydie (Naomi Acker) and rural neighbor Gavin (Lucas Hedges) try in their limited but loving ways to help.
This is a slow, quiet movie, filled with uncomfortable silences and scenes that feel disjointed and moments that seem emotionally inappropriate and half-formed, and none of that is meant to imply that Sorry, Baby isn't a tremendously well-made, deeply insightful movie. It's just that for someone like Agnes, life after her experience is slow, filled with uncomfortable silences, and often feels disjointed and half-formed.
This is a rare movie, because it tries to observe a truth — not delve into the mind and heart of a character, but to watch as she struggles with the kind of ordinary tragedy and bland betrayal that exists in too many lives. There are moments when Agnes struggles to recount just what happened, or to clarify for others why it matters to her so much; it's a movie about people who have trouble expressing themselves, so in that way, it's a movie about pretty much every one of us.
There are times when it feels almost too slow, when it seems to meander a little too much, and then Sorry, Baby does something wonderful and completely untelegraphed in its final few scenes. Agnes meets a stranger who seems fundamentally to understand what she cannot make sense of. Their interaction is brief but deeply moving. And then there is one more moment between two important characters.
I'm not going to explain what it is or how it happens, only to say that in the final moments of Sorry, Baby, the title makes perfect and beautiful sense, and suddenly this movie about one very specific person dealing with one very specific moment in her life becomes —spectacularly but quietly — about everyone in the audience who is just trying to find a way forward in a world that doesn't make enough sense. Or, really, maybe, any sense at all.
Viewed July 4, 2025 — AMC Century City
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